Comments for Behind the Moon

Comment on Cover Reveal and Summer Book Giveaway! by lindagrimes

lindagrimes — Wed, 30 May 2012 11:18:43 +0000

LOVE your cover!! This is so exciting — I can’t wait to read WHISPERS IN AUTUMN!

All those books look wonderful, but if I have to choose, I would love to win a pre-order of THIS IS NOT A TEST, by Courtney Summers.

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by Jill

Jill — Thu, 24 May 2012 22:56:37 +0000

Great post. It made me follow you on twitter!

On a more serious level, I have always had trouble with no. I still can’t tell my Mom no and I’m 35 with my own kid. It’s a horrible thing to feel like you can’t say no for fear of losing love or respect, or just out of terror ‘they might not like me’.

I write YA too and for me it was important to show the girls saying no, and to form healthy relationships with boys. That aren’t *always* stalking and brooding.

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by Harley May

Harley May — Thu, 24 May 2012 22:42:02 +0000

I love this and you. Excellent.

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by lindagrimes

lindagrimes — Thu, 24 May 2012 20:53:29 +0000

Excellent post. Heck, I still have to remind myself that it’s okay to say no. (And I’m not talking about sex.)

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by Barbara Ellingson

Barbara Ellingson — Thu, 24 May 2012 19:33:27 +0000

Well done. I don’t know the answers about boys and girls, but I do know that I hear parents complaining here in Seattle about “kids performing oral sex on each other on the playground, at parties, etc.” and I always say “WHOA. Let’s call that what it is. Girls performing oral sex on boys. It’s not the other way around. ” And then they glare at me.

Boys and girls need to say no. When they want to, and when they should. Adults need to take responsibility for their actions, and help kids learn to do the same.

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by Jenn Rush

Jenn Rush — Thu, 24 May 2012 15:58:10 +0000

I like your serious face. This is a brilliant post, dude. I have a hard time saying no (unless it’s to my parents or husband). I always want to make my friends and family and kids happy. And when I hire someone for something? I’m more likely to say, Oh I love it! When really I mean I hate it and I want them to start over.

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by Claire

Claire — Thu, 24 May 2012 15:02:39 +0000

This is a great post, Trisha. I agree that it’s beyond important to teach girls to say no, and more importantly, that it’s *okay* to say no. They are not obligated to do a single damn thing for anyone else besides themselves. I can’t imagine the pressure that today’s teenaged girls feel to do whatever their boyfriends want, what with everything being so blatantly oversexualized in today’s media. I mean, I think that has changed even since when I was a teenager.

Also, yeah, I’m totally with you on the hard time saying no in other types of situation. I even sometimes say yes to things I know for a fact will stress me out because I trick myself into thinking I’ll be able to figure it out somehow. I mean, why not? I’m Superwoman! *headdesk*

Anyway, yes, this is a fantastic post. Thanks for sharing!

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by kristina

kristina — Thu, 24 May 2012 14:56:17 +0000

Spot on. All of it. Also, I have a terrible time as an adult saying “no” and not feeling really guilty about it. But I’m working on it!

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by Louise Broadbent

Louise Broadbent — Thu, 24 May 2012 14:25:40 +0000

I agree that it’s important for a girl to be able to say ‘no’ if she doesn’t want that experience but I also think it’s important for a girl to be able to ‘yes’ or even to initiate it. It’s also important for a boy to be able to say ‘no’ or to not feel the pressure to ‘try’ anything. The stereotype of boys as horny teenagers and girls as helpless victims is not helpful. I do not believe that boys have a higher sex drive than girls or feel more ‘ready’ for sexual experiences – that’s just the way society expects them to be. But girls do need to learn how to express what they want rather than relying on boys to control the situation.

Comment on Say It With Me: NO by Patty

Patty — Thu, 24 May 2012 14:24:43 +0000

This is required reading.